Your purpose is not something you create, it was already created for you. I call this the “promise.” Our job is to uncover our unique talents, skills, and abilities (i.e., our gifts) and use them to serve others for the purpose of our creator. Therefore, our purpose is the same, the only difference is the vehicle in which we choose to pursue it.
Listed below are some strategies that will help you uncover your uniqueness. How you choose to use those gifts to serve others will be entirely up to you.
Please start by doing the following:
1. Eliminate all distractions (no phone, television, music, etc.). Find a quiet place.
2. Imagine you just woke up from a coma, and you don’t remember your friends, enemies, family, society norms and/or expectations (you only remember what you’re good at and what you love to do).
3. Pretend you only have one year to live (in perfect health), and your bills and other financial responsibilities are of no concern to you.
4. Pray to God that He will reveal your purpose through these questions.
5. Suspend all judgment as you answer each question listed below (i.e., answer with your heart, not with your head — that’s how God speaks to us).
6. Be totally honest with yourself as you answer each question. Set aside some time (however long it takes) to write down your responses (don’t erase). Good luck!
Investigative Questions: Who are you?
1. If you had the time, what would you most want to study, practice, master, or research deeply? What would you want to be an expert in?
2. What activities do you engage in or talk about, and you lose track of all sense of time?
3. What particular skill(s) or ability(ies) have you received the most compliments?
4. If money wasn’t a concern, what work would you be willing to do for FREE?
5. What personal talents, skills, and abilities do YOU have the most confidence in?
6. What ONE thing would you dare to attempt if you could not fail?
7. If you only had six months to live (in perfect health), other than family and spiritual activities, what activities or tasks would you engage in?
8. Describe the “perfect JOB” (not life) in terms of duties, activities, and responsibilities.
9. What professional activities give you the greatest pleasure, makes you the happiest, gives you the most fulfillment, greatest peace of mind, and the most satisfaction?
10. From your previous responses, what activities/skills tend to be repeating themselves (list them here and use them while answering questions 11 – 15)?
Commitment Questions: How committed are you?
11. Are you willing to dedicate your life to this? (i.e., is the reward worth the risk?)
12. Are you willing to pay the price for it (i.e., sacrifice, face your fears, break bad habits, make necessary changes, make tough decisions, handle the setbacks, etc.)?
13. Have you ever envisioned yourself doing this (i.e., can you FEEL it, SEE it and DESCRIBE it in great detail, and even almost TOUCH it)?
14. If you won the lotto tomorrow, would you still pursue it?
15. Is this something you FEEL you MUST do? Does it FEEL right?
If you are still unsure about your “calling,” proceed to questions 16 – 28.
If you are pretty certain about your calling at this point, proceed to questions 29 – 33.
Still uncertain? See if these questions can help. Again, write down your responses.
Additional Investigative Questions: Who are you?
16. If God were to tell you right now that it would be possible for you to accomplish one great thing while you’re here on earth, what would you want it to be?
17. What five wonderful things could God do with you, for you, through you, in you, for the rest of your life?
18. What are you confident in doing now that you knew nothing about a few years ago?
19. What are the greatest opportunities for you in each of the following areas: 1.) your family; 2.) your job; 3.) your church; 4.) your community?
20. What crazy ideas about your future have you dismissed recently? Why?
21. What talents and/or abilities seem to naturally flow out of you?
22. In what areas do you normally produce good results?
Passion Questions: What gets your juices flowing?
23. What do you think about when you lie awake at night just staring at the ceiling?
24. What kind of issues, needs, opportunities, activities, and ideas really motivate you and seem to give you energy?
25. What things/issues deeply concern you?
26. What dreams or visions are almost impossible to put out of your head?
27. To what can you give a 100% of yourself for your whole life?
28. From your previous responses, what activities, skills, and/or ideas, tend to be repeating themselves (list them now and use them while answering questions 11 – 15 on the previous page)?
Integrity Questions: Who are you “really” serving?
Your purpose is only as pure as your motives. Your gifts can either be used positively or negatively. Before you begin your journey in pursuit of purpose, you should honestly ask and answer the following questions (write it down):
29. Why do I really want to do this?
30. Am I doing this for my own selfish desires?
31. Will I be able to put God first in my life if I pursue this?
32. Would I be able to use my gifts and talents if I pursued this?
33. Would this bring out the best in me?
“The purpose of life is to have a life with a purpose.” – Robert Byrne
Believe it or not, this is only the beginning. Pursuing your purpose is a life-long process (but an exciting and very fulfilling one). After you have identified your talents, abilities, and skills (i.e., gifts), you must ask yourself: How can I use these gifts to serve others while serving my creator?
If you went through this exercise honestly, thoroughly, and ambitiously, I’m sure you have many questions. If so, please feel free to e-mail me your questions. I will do my best to respond to each of your questions as soon as I possibly can. Remember, the only dumb question is the one you DON’T ask; because if you don’t ask, you still don’t know.
Thanks for dropping by RWU. Please come again, and next time tell a friend.
And as always, live purposefully.