“What Are You Worth?”
How do you determine the value of anything? Usually, you take the object or thing in question to an appraiser or expert to see what something is worth. But how do we determine our own value? Unfortunately, we do the same thing as with any object, we seek the opinion of others.
I say this is unfortunate because, as we know, most of time people underestimate our value. They tell us what we can’t do, what we can’t accomplish, what skills we lack, etc. Ever since the days of grade school, we have let tests, grades, teachers, and even other students determine our self-worth. Outside of the classroom, we let parents, friends, co-workers, and circumstances do the same thing. This has to stop.
Self-esteem is the direct measurement of how much you believe in yourself. I’m not a psychologist, but during my teaching and speaking years, I’ve run into literally thousands of students across the country suffering from low self-esteem and insecurity about there abilities and talents, as well as their appearance and intelligence.
Jim Hartness and Neil Eskelin have an awesome book entitled, “The 24-hour Turn-Around.” In one off their chapters, they offer 10 steps to transform your self-esteem. Whether your self-esteem is weak or strong, I believe it can always get better. Check it out and see what you think.
Get acquainted with the real you.
Continuously do a self evaluation. Do you truly know yourself? Have you ever asked a friend, “Be honest; how do you see me? What are my strengths and weaknesses? If you would like help with this step, go to our Success Gymnasium (i.e., Campus Departments) and do the “Finding Your Purpose” exercise.
Laugh at your handicaps.
Nobody’s perfect. But what’s strange is that we expect everything to be perfect. Dennis Kimbro once said, “It’s crazy to think we can be perfect, but it’s foolish not to try.” We can strive for perfection, but understand that we will never really achieve it. Not only should we strive to learn from our mistakes, we should learn to laugh at them as well. Don’t allow your shortcomings to become permanent barriers in your life.
Put your failures in perspective.
One of my students asked me for some advice on how to succeed, and I said you need to fail more. Looking at me curiously, I explained to her that the most successful people in the world have also failed the most. Success is never permanent, but neither is failure. You’ve heard the saying, “use your obstacles as a stepping stone.” This is true. The only way you can avoid failure in life is to not do anything, and then just wait to die. Now, what kind of life is that? So, get out there and fail more, I guarantee you will succeed more.
Develop a healthy love of yourself.
In the Bible, when the Lord was asked, “What is the greatest commandment?” he said, “to love God with all your heart, soul and strength, and to love your neighbor, as you love yourself.” Let’s face it, we can’t love anybody until we first love ourselves. I encourage you to fall in love with yourself, not to the point of conceit and arrogance, but to the point of acceptance of who you are and what God has created you to be.
Find someone who needs your help.
I believe that the best way you can help yourself is to help others. Helping others revitalizes the soul and increases your self confidence. Believe it or not, I help me when I’m helping you. By sharing with you information that can help you improve your life, I also am improving mine. Search for someone in need and help them, and see what it does for your spirit. Instead of asking what people can do for you, ask yourself, what can you do for them.
Deliberately change your behavior.
If you catch yourself in a rut and doing the same old thing day after day, deliberately do something that will liberate you and make you feel good about yourself. For me personally, I read something inspirational. For others, they choose to exercise. Anything that makes you feel good about yourself, schedule a time to do it, and then do it The key is to get your body and mind in motion. Motion motivates your emotions, and your emotions impacts your actions.
Choose a creative challenge
They say that an idle mind is the devil’s workshop, and I believe that is true. If you really want to feel good about yourself and give your soul a shot of positive self-esteem, work on something that challenges your intellect. For me, I write poetry; for my wife, she likes to bake. It doesn’t matter what it is, whether it’s a game of Jeopardy or making something with your hands, challenge your creativity.
Get comfortable with compliments.
You ever noticed that some people feel incapable of accepting compliments? Think about the last time you received a sincere compliment, how did it make you feel? This issue goes to the heart of our self-esteem. I, myself, found it very difficult years ago accepting compliments. Until I realized that no one’s obligated to give us compliments. It makes people feel good to tell someone something nice. Whenever we down play their compliment, we’re actually denying them the chance to feel good about themselves. Therefore, the next time someone gives you a compliment, just say “Thank you.”
On the other hand, we must also become comfortable with criticism. Have you ever noticed that we can receive 99 compliments, but one suggestion for improvement erases them all? Remember, the words others say about us are not personal until we “choose” to make them personal.
Revalue your worth.
We need to learn not only how to appreciate others, but also how to appreciate ourselves. It seems like whenever something bad happens to us, we feel like we deserve it. And likewise, when something good happens to us, we feel guilty about it because we don’t feel worthy. There’s a difference between being humble and being greatful. Humility is not thinking more of yourself than you should. Greatful is realizing that you are a child of God, and He intends for you to be blessed. Consider yourself worthy of his many blessings.
See a brand new picture.
It’s been said that we are what we think. Our thoughts control how we feel, and our feelings control how we act, and our actions control our results. If we want to have a healthy self image, we need to have a healthy thought life and a healthy outlook on life. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No can make you feel inferior without your permission.” We will never be what we should be until we first see ourselves (in our mind’s eye) as we could be. Create a picture that you can be proud of.
Look forward to much more information on this topic from RealWorld University. We’ll be bringing you information, ideas, and strategies from some of the world’s leading experts and authorities in this field and many others. We believe that experience may be a good teacher, but other people’s experience is a better teacher. Our motto at RWU is, “The key to wisdom is knowing where to look for the answers.”
Thanks for dropping by RealWorld University, and remember to live purposefully. God bless!