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Handling Uncertainty (Worrying)

Seven Reasons Not to Worry

Worry, if not controlled, can become one of the biggest emotional drains in our lives. As a college student, the worry list is endless: poor grades, high tuition (or mal-tuition), next meal, an uncertain future, poor relationships, and the list goes on and on. I’m getting depressed just thinking about it.

However, in study conducted on human behavior, statistics revealed that of all of the things we worry about, only 7% of our worries are actually worth worrying about; the study revealed that 93% of our worries either won’t happen or is totally out of our control to do anything about anyway. Then why do we spend so much time doing worrying? Because like most bad habits that we possess, we’ve been conditioned to do it.
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The Dirty Dozen Exercise

I used this exercise on a class I taught about five years ago to get my students to look at themselves from a different perspective. I call it the “Dirty Dozen” because it keeps us from hiding our dirty laundry. That’s why I phrased these questions in the first person…to get you to internalize them.

Ask yourself these questions out loud (in private of course) and answer every one of them:
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Learning to Network

We’ve all heard the saying, “It’s not what you know, but who you know.” Well, I believe it’s not even who you know, but rather who knows you. Do you know who Bill Clinton, Oprah Winfrey, Michael Jordan, Bill Gates, and Donald Trump are? Of course you do. But do any of them know who “you” are?

My point is this, if you sit around waiting for people to find you, you’ll be waiting forever. And if you sit around waiting for handouts, all you’ll get are leftovers. It’s time to take advantage of what I consider the biggest benefit of college. . . networking.
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Acing an Interview

A RealWorld Student writes:

Dear Prof. Martin:

I’m getting ready to graduate soon, and I’m trying to get accepted into medical school to become the first doctor ever in my family. Being a doctor has been my dream ever since I could talk. My dream college (and first choice) is considering my application for admission, and everything will hedge on my interview with the board. This school is very prestigious, and I know I’ll become a doctor even if I don’t accepted to this school. But I just don’t want to blow this opportunity. I’m so nervous. Do you have any suggestions that could help me stay cool, calm, and collected and ace this interview? Thank you. Also, pray for me
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Handling Arguments Effectively

Don’t Argue — Discuss!
by John C. Maxwell

Discussions can be healthy, since they have the potential to build relationships and result in a “win” for everyone. On the other hand, arguments are rarely good. Why? They are forceful attempts to change another person’s point of view, and thus result in a “winner” and a “loser.”

Arguments always cause some damage, even if you “win.” The next time you find yourself involved in a conflict of opinion, use these guidelines to make it a DISCUSSION — resolving the issue while building the relationship.
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Understanding Communication

Randy Pawlowski, the Student Activities Director at Seminole Community College (Sanford, Florida) and a dear friend, recently passed this information on to me at one of his student leadership workshops. For those of you who want to communicate more effectively, you should consider the following facts:
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