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Rebuilding a Broken Heart

Written by Schannon Love

Since I’ve been in college, I’ve had quite a few “miscellaneous” relationships that have ended in disappointment. However, to have your heart broken is entirely another experience. To have your heart broken means that you’ve exposed yourself in the most vulnerable ways to someone you perceived as worthy. Personally, to have my heart broken means that I’ve allowed my heart’s protective barrier to not only be penetrated, but to be torn down completely.

Broken hearts, many times, result in broken spirits, and your spirit is what characterizes your personality and the functions of your mind. A broken spirit makes us question areas in our life we once thought were secure and stable. We subconsciously find ourselves asking “Why?” when there’s really no logical explanation. Those of us who have encountered broken hearts must go through a reconstructive period, piecing back together our lives, our identities, our perceptions, and our independence.

A dear friend of mine was plagued with a broken heart, and all I could do was offer her words of encouragement. It was not my place, or anyone else’s place as a friend, to criticize her and the choices she had made in her relationship. Though it is hard to avoid being judgmental when a loved one has been hurt, it was my responsibility as a friend to let her grieve in her own way. All I could do was offer my ear to listen, my shoulder on which she could lean and cry, and my encouraging words with hopes of enlighten her darkness. This is what I wrote her: Read more »

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Improving Your Listening Skills

Leading by Listening

“You’re not listening to me.”
“Did you even hear a word that I said?”
“You’re missing the point.”
“Why do I even bother trying to communicate with you?”

If you have half a pulse, and you’ve actually interacted with other human beings, then you’ve either uttered some of these words to someone in total frustration, or worse, someone has uttered them to you with equal disdain.
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Learning to Network

We’ve all heard the saying, “It’s not what you know, but who you know.” Well, I believe it’s not even who you know, but rather who knows you. Do you know who Bill Clinton, Oprah Winfrey, Michael Jordan, Bill Gates, and Donald Trump are? Of course you do. But do any of them know who “you” are?

My point is this, if you sit around waiting for people to find you, you’ll be waiting forever. And if you sit around waiting for handouts, all you’ll get are leftovers. It’s time to take advantage of what I consider the biggest benefit of college. . . networking.
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Handling Arguments Effectively

Don’t Argue — Discuss!
by John C. Maxwell

Discussions can be healthy, since they have the potential to build relationships and result in a “win” for everyone. On the other hand, arguments are rarely good. Why? They are forceful attempts to change another person’s point of view, and thus result in a “winner” and a “loser.”

Arguments always cause some damage, even if you “win.” The next time you find yourself involved in a conflict of opinion, use these guidelines to make it a DISCUSSION — resolving the issue while building the relationship.
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Getting Along With Others

Get Along to Get Ahead
by Dr. John C. Maxwell

For a business study a few years ago, more than 2,000 employers were asked, “For the last three persons dismissed from your business, why did you let them go?” The pollsters were surprised by the results. Two out of every three fired employees — regardless of the type of business or region of the country — were dismissed for the same reason: THEY COULDN’T GET ALONG WITH OTHER PEOPLE.

Relationships make or break us. From the quality of our family time to our interactions at work, our relationships are largely responsible for our career success or failure. To be a success in life, you must learn to get along with people.
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Communicating Effectively

Say It Better!

ARE YOU REALLY SERIOUS about becoming a better communicator? Well, the guidelines outlined here will sure put you on the right path. As a professor who teaches communication, I can honestly tell you that few books on communication have impacted me the way “The Real Me Please Stand Up,” by John Powell did. There’s much more in the book than I could possibly tell you about here, but I would highly recommend you purchase it if you truly desire to improve your communication skills. Here are John’s 25 Guidelines as outlined in his book.

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