Some have said that the letters of the word “fear” also defines what it is: “False Evidence Appearing Real.” How appropriate, because that’s exactly what it is. Most of the time, fear is just a manifestation of our imagination running out of control.
Fear, especially for college students, comes disguised in many forms.
There’s the typical fear of the unknown (i.e., outlook on employment after graduation, having to speak in front of your peers, uncertainty about meeting your financial needs, etc.).
Then there’s the fear of failure or rejection (i.e., failing your final exam, not graduating, not getting the job you want, etc.).
There’s also the uncommon fear of success. That right; believe it or not, some people are actually afraid to succeed (i.e., increased expectations, increased responsibility, feelings of guilt for having more than others, etc.).
All of these examples don’t even take into account the fear we have in our relationships, families, and personal lives.
Whichever your fear, neither one of the three previous types is healthy for you. Each fear has its own unique debilitating characteristics that can steal your dreams and sabotage your future. Your job is to identify which and how each fear is attacking you and learn how to conquer it effectively.
Now I don’t pretend to be an expert on the topic, but I have endured my own share of fear attacks. In fact, when I was a teenager growing up in the ghetto, sometimes it felt as if “fear” was the only friend I had. Over the years, I’ve achieved some “success” largely due to my ability to courageously face my fears. During those battles, I learned the following lessons:
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